Know When You Have A Good Man!!!

This is going to be short.

A friend of mine told me a while back that his wife (that he'd been married to for a few years) decided she didn't want to be married anymore....she left him for her ex-boyfriend and left him to raise their two kids (both under 5) by himself. You have to understand that they had a rocky relationship from the start. But that's definitely no excuse to abandon your family.

They're in the process of getting a divorce now and it's an extremely sad situation. I just don't understand how someone who fought through so much adversity (her parents didn't like him) to be together and make things work....just decides "that's it....I'm done". Especially when he's one of the nicest guys I've ever known. He got her pregnant, but decided to do the right thing and take care of her and the baby (her parents wouldn't)....when he could've just decided that the baby was her responsibility...he didn't do that, even if they hadn't gotten married....he was going to do right by his child....and handle his responsibility!

This guy worked 2 jobs to provide for the family so that she didn't have to work and there could be one parent home with the kids full time. I'm not saying that he deserves a "father of the year" award for doing what he should have done....but at least he deserved to be shown some appreciation. Don't you think?

Why do baby daddy's who consistently do nothing to provide for their children but then come to their senses and actually step up ONCE....get praised like they're the FATHER OF THE FRICKIN YEAR??? While a father (not a baby daddy) who's there as a parent day in and day out gets no credit or respect? THAT'S SOME BULL!!!!

Ladies....there are good men out there who step up and handle their responsibilities! This may come off as sounding like a man who's looking for credit for doing exactly what he should be doing, IT'S NOT!!! This is just a guy trying to get women to realize what they have at home in their man.....Remember the 80/20 rule. Don't give up that great 80% for a worthless 20%.

To all those that have a good man at home, who's consistently there for them and their children....hold on to that guy and treat him right because you don't know where or when the next GOOD MAN might come along!!!

Keep you heads up and your hearts open!

J. Earl Smith
@JSmith2523 on Twitter