Thursday, August 26, 2010

Guest Post

I'm proud to announce that I've gotten the opportunity to write a guest article on a great blog..... It's a great blog that will interest many people.

Big thanks to my dear friend Jordanna (@Pink_PrezPR on Twitter) for allowing my voice to be heard (so to speak) through her outlet. She has a great company "Touch of Pink PR" that has some big things in the works....I'm really looking forward to working with her in the future and definitely plan on using her for all my PR needs. Good lookin out Ms. President!!!!

I have a few new ventures that I'm getting the wrinkles ironed out of....but there'll be some news on that in the very near future.

But for now.....check out my post on I think it will hit home with alot of's good practical advice that's ALWAYS been beneficial to me.

As always........if you remember nothing else......Remember You're Worth It!

J. Earl Smith
(@JSmith2523 on Twitter)

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Radio Interview

Due to a scheduling conflict my radio interview on won't be airing on Wednesday September 8th @ 7pm as I previously said. My new date and time are Tuesday September 21st @ 8pm.

It's going to be an hour long interview about my new book "You're Worth It" Volume 1, what my inspiration was for the book and how anyone who reads my book can remember what their true worth really is.

Again the interview will be airing live on on September 21st at 8pm. It's a live show with no script, so I'm not exaclty sure what the host will be asking me. I'm hoping that we might be able to open up the phone lines or answer some emails on air. It's going to be a fun and introspective look into the mind of a regular guy who believes that with common sense anyone can find and maintain a successful relationship.

Please tune in to get a good idea of who I am, what my book is all about and how you can figure out or remember what your true worth really is.

Tuesday, September 21st @ 8pm on

For relationship questions feel free to contact me on Twitter at @JSmith2523. Or if you'd rather your questions be can email me at

Remember......You're Worth It!

J. Earl Smith
@JSmith2523 on Twitter

Monday, August 16, 2010

Radio Interview coming soon!!!!

So I got some great news the other day. I'm being featured on an Internet radio show in September for new authors. It's going to be an hour long interview about my new book "You're Worth It" Volume 1, what my inspiration was for the book and how anyone who reads my book can remember what their true worth really is.

The interview will be airing live on on September 8th at 7pm. I'm not totally sure what the host of the show will be asking's a live show with no script. It's going to be fun and introspective look into the mind of a regular guy who's trying to help people find and maintain a successful person at a time. So tune in to get a good idea of who I am, what my book is all about and how you can figure out or remember what your true worth really is.

Wednesday, September 8th @ 7pm on

For relationship questions feel free to contact me on Twitter at @JSmith2523. Or if you'd rather ask a personal relationship question without it being seen by the can email me at

Remember......You're Worth It!

J. Earl Smith
@JSmith2523 on Twitter

Sunday, August 15, 2010

Volume 1 Complete!

The first installment of my series...."You're Worth It" has been completed for a little over a month and I've already started pushing and marketing the book. I have my sample copies and have begun forwarding them to various media outlets.

The idea for this book began a little over two years ago and has been accomplished through many long nights....laboring and researching to make the book the best it could possibly be....and I'm happy to say that things are starting to materialize for me. This isn't a great accomplishment or an end result....this is only the beginning for me.

I've already started on Volume 2 of my "You're Worth It" series and it should be finished and ready for distribution in the next four to six months.

I'm in the process of talking with another writer to collaborate on a fictional "coming of age" fictional novel, and with any luck we'll be able to get the rights to it bought, so that it can be turned into a movie. I know those are high aspirations and we haven't even gotten the novel written yet.....but we'll see how things go....and of course....I'll keep you posted.

For your own copy of "You're Worth It" Volume 1.....DM me at @JSmith2523 or email me at

Remember............."You're Worth It".

J. Earl Smith
@JSmith2523 on Twitter

Emotional Distance....Emotional Infidelity

Emotional distance in a relationship is a clear sign that there's a problem. Regardless of whether someone's always been an "independent" person....once in a relationship, you should see the shift from handling things on your own (depending only on yourself) to an interchange of support and encouragement between you and your partner.

If for some reason you're not feeling that may want to try to find out why there seems to be this void between you and your partner.

It's sad to say....but when someone begins emotionally distancing themselves from their's usually because they are connecting on an emotional level with someone else.(Disclaimer: This is not an absolute determining factor that someone is spending time with or getting involved with someone else....this is just to raise your awareness that you may have some things to be on the lookout for.) Some will say that they're just handling things within themselves....but internalizing doesn't usually cause someone to withdraw from their partner. Withdrawing from one's partner usually begins once they feel that partner doesn't "understand" them anymore or they're not feeling the same support they used to feel from their partner.

This is especially dangerous because this can lead to Emotional Infidelity. This is a betrayal of your partner's trust even though it's not on the same level as having an affair with physical intimacy and sex. While it doesn't necessarily break any spoken vows, it can be as devastating to a relationship as physical intimacy/unfaithfulness.

Be careful of the casual chat rooms and social networking sites....because what starts as a simple conversation on a common interest can soon turn into having a "need" to talk to that person on the other end of the computer....more than the need to talk to your own partner. The view of the person on the other end of the computer connection can become distorted and more important than the relationship you've built with your partner. Social networking sites are great if used for their intended purpose and kept in their proper place. If spending more time on your social networking site of choice is more important to you than spending time with your won't have a partner for long. Don't be naive and say it couldn't happen to you. It happens to people around the world doesn't only have to be social networking sites. This applies to emails from "old friends", co-w0rkers that we're a little too familiar with, or people we don't even know who become "friends" of ours.

Bottom line: BE CAREFUL!!! As my mom always told me...."Make sure the choices you make today....are choices you can live with tomorrow!"

Remember.....You're Worth It....but so is your RELATIONSHIP!!!!

J. Earl Smith
@JSmith2523 on Twitter

Know When You Have A Good Man!!!

This is going to be short.

A friend of mine told me a while back that his wife (that he'd been married to for a few years) decided she didn't want to be married anymore....she left him for her ex-boyfriend and left him to raise their two kids (both under 5) by himself. You have to understand that they had a rocky relationship from the start. But that's definitely no excuse to abandon your family.

They're in the process of getting a divorce now and it's an extremely sad situation. I just don't understand how someone who fought through so much adversity (her parents didn't like him) to be together and make things work....just decides "that's it....I'm done". Especially when he's one of the nicest guys I've ever known. He got her pregnant, but decided to do the right thing and take care of her and the baby (her parents wouldn't)....when he could've just decided that the baby was her responsibility...he didn't do that, even if they hadn't gotten married....he was going to do right by his child....and handle his responsibility!

This guy worked 2 jobs to provide for the family so that she didn't have to work and there could be one parent home with the kids full time. I'm not saying that he deserves a "father of the year" award for doing what he should have done....but at least he deserved to be shown some appreciation. Don't you think?

Why do baby daddy's who consistently do nothing to provide for their children but then come to their senses and actually step up ONCE....get praised like they're the FATHER OF THE FRICKIN YEAR??? While a father (not a baby daddy) who's there as a parent day in and day out gets no credit or respect? THAT'S SOME BULL!!!!

Ladies....there are good men out there who step up and handle their responsibilities! This may come off as sounding like a man who's looking for credit for doing exactly what he should be doing, IT'S NOT!!! This is just a guy trying to get women to realize what they have at home in their man.....Remember the 80/20 rule. Don't give up that great 80% for a worthless 20%.

To all those that have a good man at home, who's consistently there for them and their children....hold on to that guy and treat him right because you don't know where or when the next GOOD MAN might come along!!!

Keep you heads up and your hearts open!

J. Earl Smith
@JSmith2523 on Twitter

Friends Don't Give Friends Relationship Advice

Everyone has had a friend at some point, who felt they had "all" the answers to solve your relationship problems. Some of us may actually have been that friend at one point or another. order to change your life, you must change your lifestyle. The s**t your doing isn't working for why keep doing it?

Why do we consistently listen to our friends who are in no better relationship situation than we are to ourselves? Like, why does a woman listen to advice from her girls who either ain't had a man as long as they've known each other (although she claims she's single by choice), or a girl who's in a worse situation than she is. How about a guy who listens to his retarded friends who dare try to tell him how to "handle" his woman....while he ain't got a woman of his own, or a guy who let's his friends gas him up to confront his woman about why she's always nagging him (wrong choice).

Why do we consistently set ourselves up for failure in this regard? What ever happened to asking those in our lives who actually have something going for themselves? No one is saying that there's anything wrong with bouncing situations off your friends or asking them their opinion. buy why do we settle for the lame half-assed stupidity that comes out of most people's mouths. Wouldn't it be wiser of us to look to those who've successfully gone through what we're going through right now?

Stop listening to those who say....."Girl...if that had been me....i woulda...."Man....why your girl always trippin?" Now if you're really in a seriously messed up situation (like domestic violence or you've been cheated on) and a friend is giving you some sound advice, then there's not really anything wrong with that.

But other than that, we should be all grateful for what we do have and strive to make things better in 2010. Remember, no one can walk your path for you....not your friends, not your family....only you. Do what you feel is best for you and let no one in a worse emotional/relationship state....dictate what you should or shouldn't be doing.

You're Worth It!

J. Earl Smith
@JSmith2523 on Twitter