Friends Don't Give Friends Relationship Advice

Everyone has had a friend at some point, who felt they had "all" the answers to solve your relationship problems. Some of us may actually have been that friend at one point or another. Remember....in order to change your life, you must change your lifestyle. The s**t your doing isn't working for you....so why keep doing it?

Why do we consistently listen to our friends who are in no better relationship situation than we are to ourselves? Like, why does a woman listen to advice from her girls who either ain't had a man as long as they've known each other (although she claims she's single by choice), or a girl who's in a worse situation than she is. How about a guy who listens to his retarded friends who dare try to tell him how to "handle" his woman....while he ain't got a woman of his own, or a guy who let's his friends gas him up to confront his woman about why she's always nagging him (wrong choice).

Why do we consistently set ourselves up for failure in this regard? What ever happened to asking those in our lives who actually have something going for themselves? No one is saying that there's anything wrong with bouncing situations off your friends or asking them their opinion. buy why do we settle for the lame half-assed stupidity that comes out of most people's mouths. Wouldn't it be wiser of us to look to those who've successfully gone through what we're going through right now?

Stop listening to those who say....."Girl...if that had been me....i woulda...."Man....why your girl always trippin?" Now if you're really in a seriously messed up situation (like domestic violence or you've been cheated on) and a friend is giving you some sound advice, then there's not really anything wrong with that.

But other than that, we should be all grateful for what we do have and strive to make things better in 2010. Remember, no one can walk your path for you....not your friends, not your family....only you. Do what you feel is best for you and let no one in a worse emotional/relationship state....dictate what you should or shouldn't be doing.

You're Worth It!

J. Earl Smith
@JSmith2523 on Twitter